How to Deal With Parents Who Are Angry, Troubled, Afraid, or Just Plain Crazy

Höfundur: Elaine K. McEwan (Útgáfa: 2)
How to Deal With Parents Who Are Angry, Troubled, Afraid, or Just Plain Crazy

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Updated Edition of Bestseller! How do you deal with high-maintenance parents who never seem happy with the job you are doing? Emotionally charged, often disgruntled, and occasionally abusive parents--sound familiar? The second edition of Elaine McEwan′s bestselling classic will help you manage your most difficult audience, adding several new features and examples that will give you the confidence and skills you need to handle such situations, including: Over two dozen strategies-enhanced and updated-to defuse emotionally charged parents An updated, easy-to-administer Healthy School Checklist to determine if your school′s culture encourages parents or pushes them over the edge Fifty Ways to build parental support for your school Ten Goals-at-a-Glance to help keep your school-community relations on target A built-in facilitator guide--ideal for book groups and staff development, including energizers, suggestions for role-playing, think-alouds, and questions for reflection and discussion Every educator will find invaluable strategies for handling angry and unresponsive parents and the critical issues that cause misunderstandings.

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Útgefandi
SAGE Publications, Inc. (US)
ISBN
9781452237176
Print ISBN
9781412904445
Format
ePub
Útgáfa
2
Höfundar
Elaine K. McEwan
Tungumál
English
Útgefið
2004-11-17
Prent takmörkun á líftíma
10
Prent takmörkun
2
Afritunar takmörkun
2

Kaflar

  • Cover Page
  • Title Page
  • Copyright
  • Contents
  • Preface
  • My Definition of “Crazy”
  • Who This Book Is For
  • Special Features of the Book
  • Overview of the Contents
  • Acknowledgments
  • About the Author
  • 1. Why So Many Parents Are Angry, Troubled, Afraid, or Just Plain Crazy
  • The Parents of Today
  • Less Respectful of Authority
  • More Educated About Education
  • Angrier Than Ever
  • Cynical and Distrustful
  • Activists
  • Stressed
  • Worried and Fearful
  • What’s Behind the Epidemic?
  • Reason 1: The World Is a Stressful Place
  • Reason 2: Educators Do Things That Upset Parents
  • Failure to Communicate
  • Circling the Wagons
  • Stonewalling and Spinelessness
  • Assumptions and Stereotypes
  • Defensiveness
  • Breaking Promises
  • Intimidation, Control, Power, and Blame
  • Condescension and Rudeness
  • Dishonesty
  • Political Correctness to the Max
  • Unwillingness to Admit Mistakes and Apologize
  • Failure to Give Parents Credit for Understanding Their Children
  • Lack of Respect for Parents and Children
  • Being Asked for Advice and Not Having It Taken
  • Unprofessionalism
  • Reason 3: Education and Educators Fail to Meet Parents’ Expectations
  • Lack of Student Learning, Schoolwide or Districtwide
  • Lack of Learning or Behavior Problems Closer to Home
  • Erosion of Values
  • Lack of Qualified and Competent Teachers
  • Lack of Safety
  • Having to Settle for Poor Schools
  • Reason 4: Parents Have Personal Problems
  • Estranged, Separated, and Divorced Parents
  • School Groupies
  • Complainers, Troublemakers, and Whiners
  • Abusive Parents
  • Addicted, Dysfunctional, and Mentally Ill Parents
  • Summing Up and Looking Ahead
  • 2. Defusing and Disarming Out-of-Control Parents
  • What Is Anger?
  • How to Deal With Parents Who Are Upset or Out of Control
  • Character Counts
  • Be trustworthy.
  • Be honest.
  • Be authentic.
  • Be respectful.
  • Be forgiving.
  • The Best Ways to Respond to Angry Parents
  • Manage by walking around.
  • Assume problems.
  • Don’t delegate.
  • Welcome and accept.
  • Say something nice.
  • Self-neutralize.
  • Attend.
  • Listen.
  • Be gentle.
  • Read between the lines.
  • Give “wordless advice.”
  • Convey serenity.
  • Be a mirror.
  • Backtrack.
  • Open your mind.
  • Don’t react.
  • Remain composed.
  • Be assertive.
  • Administer shock therapy.
  • Take the A train.
  • Apologize.
  • Empathize.
  • Welcome criticism.
  • Consider cultural differences.
  • End positively.
  • Strategies for Dealing With Truly Troubled Parents
  • Estranged, Separated, and Divorced Parents
  • Parents on Power Trips
  • Bulldozers
  • Jackhammers
  • Dump trucks
  • Complainers
  • Abusive, Addictive, Violent, and Mentally Ill Parents
  • Using Your Encounters With Parents to Learn and Grow
  • Summing Up and Looking Ahead
  • 3. Solving the Problems That Make Parents Angry, Troubled, Afraid, or Just Plain Crazy
  • The Pervasive Problems That Plague Us
  • Problems Identified by School Personnel
  • Problems Identified by Parents
  • Problems Identified by Students
  • Solving the Problems That Plague Us
  • Exploratory Strategies
  • Take your time.
  • Ask questions.
  • Open the option door.
  • Undersell and overperform.
  • Tell a story.
  • Refuse to triangulate.
  • Lower the boom lightly.
  • Don’t tell parents; show them.
  • Don’t fight ’em; join ’em.
  • Focus on problems, not personalities.
  • Action Strategies
  • Solve problems.
  • Tell the truth in love.
  • Behaviors That Can Sabotage Your Good Intentions
  • What to Do When Nothing Works
  • When to Stay
  • When to Leave
  • Summing Up and Looking Ahead
  • 4. Creating and Nurturing a Healthy School
  • The “Virulent Viruses”
  • Clandestine Operations
  • Faultfinding and Blame
  • Backyard Gossip
  • Lies, Half-Truths, and Slander
  • Triangulation
  • The Friendly Enemy
  • The Dangerous Dozen
  • Paralysis
  • Diarrhea
  • Chronic Fatigue
  • Hypertension
  • Heart Failure
  • Lockjaw
  • Circulatory Collapse
  • Muscle and Tendon Inflammation
  • Irritable Bowel Syndrome
  • Calluses, Corns, and Bunions
  • Chicken Pox
  • Malnutrition
  • A Healthy School
  • Mission and Vision
  • Separate Yet Connected
  • Metanoia Rather Than Paranoia
  • Optimism Rather Than Pessimism
  • Cooperation Rather Than Competition
  • Zero Tolerance of Intolerance
  • Maturity and Growth
  • The Healthy Leader
  • Promoting and Maintaining a Healthy School
  • Steps to Take if Your School Is Sick
  • Summing Up and Looking Ahead
  • 5. The Proactive Approach: Fifty-Plus Ways to Build Parental Support
  • Fifty-Plus Suggestions to Get You Started
  • 1. Shared Decision Making
  • 2. Survey Your Customers
  • 3. Care Enough to Send the Very Best
  • 4. Management by Walking Around
  • 5. Think Ahead
  • 6. Key Communicators
  • 7. Advance Warning
  • 8. A Key Decision-Making Tool
  • 9. Single Parents
  • 10. Breaking Up Is Hard to Do
  • 11. Multicultural Outreach
  • 12. Home Visits
  • 13. Good News Travels Fast
  • 14. The Welcome Wagon
  • 15. Read All About It
  • 16. Let’s Party
  • 17. Put Out the Welcome Mat
  • 18. Open House
  • 19. Curricular Expectations
  • 20. Read to Me
  • 21. Kudos to Volunteers
  • 22. Teacher Training
  • 23. The Night Shift
  • 24. School-Business Partnerships
  • 25. Phone Home
  • 26. You’ve Got Mail
  • 27. The Twenty-Four-Hour Policy
  • 28. The Dog Ate It
  • 29. Keyboard Capers
  • 30. The Family That Learns Together
  • 31. School-Community Partnerships
  • 32. Parents as Learners
  • 33. Career Days
  • 34. Habla Español?
  • 35. Speak to Me
  • 36. The Cable Connection
  • 37. Put Your Money Where Your Mouth Is
  • 38. Computer Literacy
  • 39. Berlitz Comes to School
  • 40. A Solid Foundation
  • 41. What’s the Score?
  • 42. Can We Talk?
  • 43. Preferred Parking
  • 44. When I Want Your Advice, I’ll Ask for It
  • 45. Here’s How to Handle a Problem
  • 46. Plan Ahead
  • 47. Rules of the Road
  • 48. Talk to Me
  • 49. Paid Parents
  • 50. The Volunteer Army
  • 51. Pop the Question
  • 52. Reach Out and Touch Someone
  • 53. Volunteer Together
  • 54. What’s in a Name?
  • 55. A Penny for Your Thoughts
  • Summing Up and Looking Ahead
  • Conclusion
  • 1. Give Parents What They Want
  • 2. Be Proactive Rather Than Reactive
  • 3. Build Relationships
  • 4. Tend to Teaching
  • 5. Don’t Hit Your Ball Into the Seven Sand Traps
  • 6. Deal With Yourself
  • 7. Build a Well-Balanced Team
  • 8. Don’t Drive Parents Crazy!
  • 9. Tell the Truth in Love
  • 10. Address Small Problems Before They Get Bigger
  • References
  • Index
  • Facilitator’s Guide
  • Who Should Use This Guide?
  • How Is the Guide Organized?
  • What Materials Are Needed?
  • Materials for Facilitators
  • Materials for Participants
  • Study Modules
  • Module 1: Introduction
  • Module 2: Chapter 1. Why So Many Parents Are Angry, Troubled, Afraid, or Just Plain Crazy
  • Module 3: Chapter 2. Defusing and Disarming Out-of-Control Parents
  • Module 4: Chapter 3. Solving the Problems That Make Parents Mad
  • Module 5: Chapter 4. Promoting a Healthy School
  • Module 6: Chapter 5. Fifty-Plus Ways to Be Proactive
  • Module 7: Conclusion