5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life
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Some difficult people aren’t just hard to deal with—they’re dangerous. Do you know someone whose moods swing wildly? Do they act unreasonably suspicious or antagonistic? Do they blame others for their own problems? When a high-conflict person has one of five common personality disorders—borderline, narcissistic, paranoid, antisocial, or histrionic—they can lash out in risky extremes of emotion and aggression.
And once an HCP decides to target you, they’re hard to shake. But there are ways to protect yourself. Using empathy-driven conflict management techniques, Bill Eddy, a lawyer and therapist with extensive mediation experience, will teach you to: - Spot warning signs of the five high-conflict personalities in others and in yourself. - Manage relationships with HCPs at work and in your private life. - Safely avoid or end dangerous and stressful interactions with HCPs.
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- Penguin US
- 9781524705091
- 9780143131366
- ePub
- 0
- Bill Eddy
- English
- 2018-02-06
- 100
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- Cover
- Advance Praise for 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life
- Title Page
- Copyright
- Dedication
- Contents
- Chapter 1: Why You Need This Knowledge Now
- Who Can You Trust Nowadays?
- What Is a Personality Disorder?
- But Why Should You Trust Me?
- Chapter 2: Warning Signs and the 90 Percent Rule
- Listen to Their Words for Threatening or Extreme Language
- Check Your Own Emotions for Intense Reactions
- Look for a History of High-Conflict Behavior
- The 90 Percent Rule
- The WEB MethodSM
- Dealing with HCPs
- Chapter 3: Don’t Become a Target of Blame
- Four Things You Need to Know About HCPs
- Why Now?
- A Love Story?
- What Happened?
- Some Words of Compassion
- Chapter 4: The I’m Superior, You’re Nothing Type
- Narcissism 101
- Two Flavors of Narcissistic HCPs
- The Athlete
- The TV Host
- Terrorist Leaders
- Spotting Narcissistic HCPs
- Avoiding Narcissistic HCPs
- Dealing with Narcissistic HCPs
- Breaking Away from a Narcissistic HCP
- Some Final Words
- Chapter 5: The Love You, Hate You Type
- Borderline 101
- Two Flavors of Borderline HCPs
- Spotting Borderline HCPs
- Tom and Kara
- Avoiding Borderline HCPs
- Dealing with Borderline HCPs
- Breaking Away from Borderline HCPs
- Some Final Words
- Chapter 6: The Cruel, Con Artist Type
- Antisocial 101
- Two Flavors of Antisocial HCPs
- Ted Bundy
- Bernie Madoff
- Spotting Antisocial HCPs
- Avoiding Antisocial HCPs
- The Reformed Prisoner
- Dealing with Antisocial HCPs
- Breaking Away from Antisocial HCPs
- Some Final Words
- Chapter 7: The Highly Suspicious Type
- Paranoid Personality 101
- Two Flavors of Paranoid HCPs
- The Neighbor
- The Coworker
- Spotting Paranoid HCPs
- Avoiding Paranoid HCPs
- Dealing with Paranoid HCPs
- Breaking Away from Paranoid HCPs
- Some Final Words
- Chapter 8: The Dramatic, Accusatory Type
- Histrionic Personality 101
- Two Flavors of Histrionic HCPs
- The Histrionic Mother
- Comments
- Loss of Parental Rights
- Comments
- Spotting Histrionic HCPs
- Avoiding Histrionic HCPs
- Dealing with Histrionic HCPs
- Breaking Away from Histrionic HCPs
- Some Final Words
- Chapter 9: Dealing with Negative Advocates (Who May Also Attack You)
- Be Prepared
- Family Members
- Friends, Neighbors, and Coworkers
- Professionals
- A Case of False Allegations
- Spotting Negative Advocates
- Dealing with Negative Advocates
- Don’t Become a Negative Advocate
- Some Final Words
- Chapter 10: Getting Help from Others (Who May Not Understand)
- Getting Help
- Counselors
- Lawyers
- Family Members and Friends
- Explaining the Patterns
- The University Employee
- Three Theories of a High-Conflict Situation
- The Family
- Some Final Words
- Chapter 11: The HCP Theory
- Two Hemispheres of the Brain
- Working Together
- Social DNA
- Cultural Influences
- Some Final Words
- Chapter 12: Self-Awareness
- The Essential Difference
- The Five Types of Patterns
- Personality Awareness
- Avoiding and Dealing with an HCP
- Self-Awareness Skills
- Conclusion
- Appendix
- Acknowledgments
- Notes
- About the Author